I am just processing something and want to run past people here to see what you think... I think I am actually getting to the place where I can say to my H that if he truly wants a D I won't stand in his way.... but, on two conditions: 1. he owns the decision - to our kids and everyone else. This is not my choice and not what I believe to be best for any of us. So, if that is what he wants, he needs to take responsibility. 2. he moves out and finds a way all by himself financially to make that work. If that is what he chooses, I don't think I can emotionally take him being here. He needs to give me a chance to heal. Up until this point, I had huge resistance to this. It scared the crap out of me to think of saying that to him. I guess maybe the detaching process is working. Does this tend to be an effective strategy? Have others done this and how did it play out? thoughts??....
