What types of changes are you referring to? Ive been working on myself as best I can. Im working out everyday, spending time with my kids as much as possible. The last two days I went to a Halloween part with friends from work and had a good time. Last night went to a birthday party with an old nieghbor friend and family.
Excellent. We like to see these things because it tells us you're not just moping around the house asking yourself why your wife wants to leave you. (To which the answer often is, "because you're moping around the house asking yourself why your wife wants to leave you.")
Originally Posted By: ugetvince
Do you mean 180 in regards to her. We havent had really any contact except for the kids. Not sure how to do 180 with her when we dont speak or rarely see each other. Please advise if you have any suggestions. I open to anything.
Although it will help if the 180s are related to difficult parts of your relationship, 180's aren't about changing for the sake of the other person.
You have to do them for yourself, because if they're not then you won't keep them up if/when you see them "not working", which will just tell your wife that you're trying to manipulate her into staying. The point is to change the relationship by changing yourself; when she sees you're not the same person that she was unhappy with a month ago, that may make her stop.
Some good posts about 180's can be found here and here.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
