Cutter - thanks so much for the encouragement! Actually, just before I checked this I was watching them play Wii... I will join in next time. :-) I love your idea about learning to play an instrument... I have been wanting to learn guitar for so long and never made the time for it. My friend taught herself on youtube videos... I could do that! My H has a guitar and I will just use it whether he likes it or not.. lol. He's hardly here to notice anyway. You are very right about taking care of myself and rewarding myself at the end of every week. I've been knowing I need to do that but haven't been doing it. Time to just do it.
On a positive note, I feel I did some successful detaching this a.m. that I am feeling very proud of myself for. H was very grumpy this a.m. and kept trying to "draw me in"... finding thigs to grumble about, complaining etc. I was cheerful, humming, keeping myself busy, made a nice brunch for the family told him he was welcome to join if he wanted or not... In the past I would have placated him when grumpy, trying to "fix" whatever was bugging him etc. I did not do any of that. I am very proud of myself and I feel much more positive! I am going to be ok. Maybe I'll actually sleep well tonight...
