I know in my case I refuse to file. One of my best friends has no relationship with his father because even though the mom is the one who packed up and left with the kids, the father filed first in order to get a better deal - and now, 30 years later none of the kids will talk to him. They still blame him because he filed.
Me: 35 W: 31 D10, S7, S2, S11 months M: 11 years Tricked into separation. In Last Resort.
My story: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1800530#Post180053
