Detachment

[brknheart]

Did She say she wants you to move on? If so, do it. Or fake it til you make it as far as being in front of her. Where the head goes, the heart will follow....eventually.

Yes, she told me this 2 weeks ago. I told her I agreed last week, started making plans, told her I cannot see or talk to her until the D, unless its important. Talking or seeing her only moves me backwards.

(I'm guessing she wants a man who will fill some of HER needs, like a partner) the more you'll push her away and confirm her discomfort around you. Please read the posts and digest them. You want her to feel comfortable around you, not guilt ridden. The more that happens, by backing off ALL R talk and being upbeat, the more likely you will be able to build some sort of friendship down the road. That's a start.

Thats the problem, she has so much resentment towards me, anger, hate, that she says she is broken, can never love me again. Ive tried many times to not talk about the past or the R, but she brings it up each time. She really wants to fast track the D... The way she is handling this separation, I feel she will killing any chance that we could have any kind of relationship...

Ive been making good progress detaching. I still love my W, but I feel my W is gone, she is another person now. I am making plans for my future, it involves moving out of the city we are living in, she knows this, seems like she doesnt even care. So many people are telling me she is doing me a favor, maybe its true...