SP, I am reading along for quite some time, and as much as I can (the English used on your thread was "beyond me" very often). I am going to say I am sorry. It went bad. You both chose "right" (as each of you understood right) over "together" and possibly happy. Nobody knows what kind of M you two could have had after all this, and from what you wrote it seems your chances to find out are not much if any at this point. And nobody knows what kind of relationship will be the next one you will have. You see, after the DBing, just as your wife seemed to you every time you thought of your future together, most women will not be as "aware" as you are, expecially if their journeys were totally different. You will still need to show patience, accept, validate, ignore etc. You maybe a catch for someone now, but they may not be "at your level" of relationship's understanding. But I am sure you know that. My original advice to you, still stands. Calm down. Life is not a competetive race. Loosing face and eating chit is not the worst that can happen to you, and usually delivers amazing lessons. Wishing you a happy life. xx K
