When X and I were on the phone, she was telling me that she was going a different way bc of where she lives vs where I live, but her house is almost in the direction of mine. Who knows.???
I really try to be a "whole person". Healthy and strong, mentally and physically. I want to be able to demonstrate to the X I have made changes in me for the better. Bc of this situation I really have learned a lot. Things I should have done better and things I did not even think about. I want to do better for sure.
I feel like I may know what is best in a relationship, but not sure if what I am doing is best to heal our relationship. It has been over two years we have been separated. Only until recently has the X made some changes in how she responds. I think a lot of it is bc I make special efforts not to contact and talk to her.
I do really want it to work and just don't know how to proceed with her. Do I GAL, date others, leave X alone, try to talk to her? She told me recently she "did not have a boyfriend". Allowed D and I to go shopping with her. She has made some efforts to get together at halloween. Her and her mom have invited me in their home on a couple of occasions. I was allowed to come around X's friend and little boy.
These all seem like positive signs. So how do I interpret them? How do I respond to her responses? Should I try to connect with X or let her do the connection efforts? The whole shivalry and cultural thing sometimes throws a kink in it for sure.
