Yikes! Need help, please.

[TrentC]

H didn't call the kids to see how their Halloween was, and they never mentioned him. Not sure how I feel about that...

I feel sorry for your kids, although it sounds like they may be starting to get used to the idea that dad won't be there for them.

My father just came over with a laundry list of things I needed to do to basically erase H out of my life. He thinks I should go file. Not sure about how I feel about that either...

My father said something similar -- "If she's so sure she'll be happy somewhere else, why not let her?"

Of course this is the same man who left my mother for another woman, had that relationship fall apart, and came back to my mother. So I'm not counting him as an expert on marital fidelity.

Friends and family want you to stop hurting. They don't necessarily want what you think is best for yourself. I'm very lucky in that I have a couple of friends who have gone through a very bitter divorce, or are going through the same thing I am, and want to see my relationship work out.