Talking nicer, informing us of their day to day, seeking us out for a hello, being considerate in our presence, I could go on and on....
The OW are still here.....
What do we really do with that. It's all great that our H's are being kinder to us and letting their guard down with information, to me that is a huge bonus that they are beginning to trust us again....
How long do we have to wait it out now....when are they going to give the OW the boot?
My friend here, a guy friend - not romantic just a great friend, told me last week, "I think if you begin to go through with the D in December....D will be begging to come back. D will be on your doorstep everyday and basically behaving like you did when he left at the very beginning." He knows my H and I very well.
My problem is this....I don't want that to bring H back. I want H to voluntarily want back in my life. It will be false to have him return only if I put a gun to his head.
Our H's need to remove the OW from their lives and live without OW for a period of time befroe they will truly be able to see us again for the wonderful women and partners we are.
I am so grateful for the friendship we have created...I worry every day that this is all there will be for us now.
(((((Cas))))) I am struggling here. I think you and I are in very similar places almost at the same hour in our sitches. It's scary, huh?
What do we do?
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
