Hope and heartache

[ClingingToHope]

"Doing something with her HS friend is a very good thing for me." How does this effect you? Why does this effect you? I gather that you think this will make some difference in her. Lets just say it did. What would have changed in your relationship?

CBart and Awest, I know what you are saying. I know the DB rules are to just focus on myself and my girls and not worry about what W is doing.

But we are also supposed to look for baby steps. I think W spending more time with the maid of honor -- not the OM I found about on Friday -- from our wedding is a baby step because A) she's not some divorcee telling W how great the grass is on the other side and B) the maid of honor is a friend of mine who might be able to cut through the fog and tell W she may want to reconsider.

I know CBart, if W came over this morning and said she's sorry, this is stupid, come home, I'd ask her what's changed and tell her the only way is if we really work at it -- counseling, marriage rebuilders class.

I don't want what we had, I want something better, but I do want at least the opportunity to work at it. What's been so frustrating is that she's so dead set on D without even considering working on the M.

Does that make sense.

A weird thing happened this morning and I wonder if this was a baby step in reverse. I had a dream about my family last night, I forget the particulars, but when I woke up I was confused. I thought I had three kids and couldn't remember who their mother was. It took me about a minute to remember.

That was very strange.