Positive developments? #2

[jon2911]

Things have been a bit crazy, but good. Got to see one of my favorite bands do their last U.S. show this weekend. They're called Delirious and they're from the UK. Amazing time.

Also started a new part-time job at a church, helping a new worship pastor who just arrived from California. He has no network here so I'm helping him lead on Sundays and finding musicians for him. Really right up my alley and it's going well. Also got to do lunch with him and the pastor, and briefly told them about my sitch. That would be a deal-breaker most places but they had a positive reaction. Cool.

Stayed up way too late watching the U2 broadcast Sunday night, and I'm still tired. My boss was taking a while to get back to me on salary stuff, and I was getting nervous, but then Saturday a letter came saying I qualify for extended unemployment. Told my boss, and he said that's great timing. He's had a lot of unexpected tax burden this month and can't pay me full-time yet. It's nerve-wracking being in the entrepreneurial-startup world, but I love it, and we have a great relationship. So I'll be taking Uncle Sam's money for a little while longer, have no problem with that.

I think I might text W soon about Thanksgiving, been so busy I haven't thought much about it. Nothing from her since last week.

[jon2911]

Strange turn of events today, got a call around noon from W asking how the taxes were going, and saying she'd be coming through Dallas Friday or Saturday and could sign them then if that would work. I told her that would be fine, that I had weekend plans but we could work something out. She asked it Friday 2-4 would work, I told her I have lunch plans and evening plans, but we could meet at 3:00. She kept saying "well, don't cancel your plans."

After I got off, thought about how awkward the conversation went, and if she might want to stay longer. I called back and told her she's welcome to stay the night. She said "I think it's best if I head out". Whatever the hell that means.

I don't want to drop plans for her, but my Friday night plans could easily be moved to Saturday. In fact, I already called the guy and told him the sitch, and he completely understands. He's actually a bit jealous, because his W wants nothing to do with him, and their divorce recently went through.

So, here's my plan. I'm feeling confident and things have been going well lately. I'll be relaxed and see if she'll stay for dessert or a drink, then see what happens. No big deal, I have plans if she really wants to leave. Spent time on my house today just in case. I really don't care either way, which is a change for me and maybe she'll sense that. Should be fun.

Also, some time during the convo I'll mention that I'll be in Houston around Thanksgiving, but leave it at that. I'll leave it up to her to bring it up over the next month. My friend gave me this idea today, and I like it.

Anyone else have any thoughts?

[jon2911]

So, W just left. It was a good, but short visit. Hanging with a friend now, glad I didn't cancel the plans.

I met her at a Starbucks, made sure I was cleaned up and looking nice, and was using my new Apple mouse. This thing is sweet, and she liked it. So I was feeling confident and that was nice.

We finished the taxes, signed them, and then went to Sprinkles for cupcakes. I think there's only one in Texas, and W likes it. I mentioned quickly that if she stayed in town, we could watch Saw tonight, and she said "thanks, but no". She mentioned a couple times that she hoped she didn't ruin my plans for the day, that she knew this was late notice. I also figured out that she's been in Dallas the last couple days, doing who knows what. Kinda bugs me, but whatever.

As she was leaving, she said "it was really nice to see you." It seemed genuine. And that was that.

Great video posted by MWD today.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AErbVUDLoRY

This is so hard to do! I think I did a good job today. W is so skittish and I could tell she wasn't feeling well, but she got comfortable after a little while.

I'm still thrown when she does these surprise visits, she did one exactly a year ago, just called me at work and asked me to lunch. What? You're in Dallas? Oh well, things are definitely up to her right now.

[jon2911]

I also mentioned that I'll be in Houston for Thanksgiving, and didn't say anything more. She gave me some advice to not just show up without providing anything, and I thanked her for that. It feels like a slap, but this is just how W operates.

W has a month now to bring it back up if she wants to. Last year she was so tired of her family after SIL's wedding that she wanted to just spend Thanksgiving with me. That seems like so long ago. Oh well, we'll see.

[jon2911]

Texted W to make sure she made it home OK. She responded "yes, thanks for asking. Will print tomorrow and let you know". Time to leave her alone for a while.

[K4D]

Jon,

I'm not fully caught up on your sitch, but question... why are you doing taxes now?

Also if you would like to email me so we can start pulling this group together and I will put it so that it does not pull up on here if a search is done.

My email is "kevin" "4" "dallas" at yahoo.com. So just take out the quotes and put it together. I had contact with Fightin4mywife tonight. I am going to give him a call tomorrow. He is wanting to get together and form a group.

Kevin

[jon2911]

Kevin,
Cool!

We filed an extension, so that took it to October 15th, but I wasn't ready then either. Our taxes are extremely complicated as my W owns part of a gas well in Louisiana. That sounded cool when we got married, not so much now. And we've already been audited once, so makes it a lot more nerve-wracking.

We ended up getting a whopping $24 refund. Which is good because I don't think getting them in late matters at all.

Nice e-mail from W today, she sent me an article about weird Halloween costumes. So she's thinking. I know it's not much, but I'll take it.

[MichelleLT]

Interesting that she dropped by.

Glad you guys got to meet and finish some business and chat.

Glad you got to drop the hint about Thanksgiving too.

Time to GAL and choose to wait.

[K4D]

Jon,

We are looking at trying to get together this saturday night. Are you up for it?

Kevin

[K4D]

jon,

I sent an invitation to everyone to meet at Los Lupes on belt line rd in addison this Saturday November 7th at 6pm. If I don't hear from you before then and you decide you can make it, just ask for the divorce busting group when you arrive.

We would love to have you if you can make it.

Kevin