I've stopped reading the improvement books because I felt like if my W wasn't going to give me a second chance then what's the point. I may look for that one though. I have bitterness in my heart and it's handicapping me.
I agree that you shouldn't obsess over self-improvement books, but it's never too late to improve yourself. If you were onlkt using the books to try to save your marriage, I think you were setting yourself up to fail.
