K4D Rising #4

[TulsaTime]

Kev,

Try these books out "As a Man Thinketh" by James Allen. This book will help you focus on you and become a better you. You can read or download it for free on the internet

Also. "I Do Again" by Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs. Lots of hope in that one.

You've gotta be a more confident you and that letter doesn't relect that at all. Do those things you wrote about as everyone is telling you. Don't send the letter.

It's a long road Kevin. You have as much time as you want to wait. Be patient. Take a chance and become a better man, not in a weak, needy, depressed sense, but in a strong, happy confident, fun, loving way. You have to stop worrying about what she's doing and saying. Concentrate on you, your negative, weak and unmasnly thought patterns and think good, beautiful, manly thoughts and see if your circumstances don't improve.

[25yearsmlc]

25,

Please explain further out of the goodness of your heart which post you are referring to.

Thank you,

Kevin

which post? The one just above, & before my last, on this very page. Submitted yesterday at 2:19 pm
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[K4D]

25,

Nevermind. I found the post on another thread that you were referring to. And yes, I am hearing them.

And I understand that personal growth in your opinion and others is about walking away from the life you had and starting a new one that doesn't include your S who has chosen a new life for themselves without you in it.

Yes, I do get it.

Kevin

[C-Bart]

I think you may have missed her point. Personal growth is about you and I being self sufficient and not dependent on our Ws or anyone else to get us through life. Its about us being strong individuals who don't loose themselves in every relationship just because of love.

[K4D]

C-Bart,

I think we both said the same thing with different words.

Kevin

[K4D]

25,

I am in C. So I don't know why I keep getting told I refuse to go to C when I am actively going and doing the homework assigned.

I am not going to respond to the lenthy detailed posts that have been thrown at me as I honestly don't have it in me to break them down line by line to try and explain myself.

And to answer the question that you love to throw out at me...

How is that DBing method working out for me? Its not.

Kevin

[K4D]

I also know that I have nothing to offer W compared to the other guys that she is taking up with aka looks and higher salaries. I guess that is why I sought God for help in this. The problem is I relied to much on God and not enough on me. God isn't going to help change my situation until I complete the work in changing me.

Kevin

[C-Bart]

C-Bart,

I think we both said the same thing with different words.

Kevin

Not quite. Your saying you have to walk away from your wife. I'm saying that you have to walk away from your concept of a relationship. Take charge of yourself and be a strong independent man regardless of your relationship status.

[C-Bart]

I also know that I have nothing to offer W compared to the other guys that she is taking up with aka looks and higher salaries. I guess that is why I sought God for help in this. The problem is I relied to much on God and not enough on me. God isn't going to help change my situation until I complete the work in changing me.

Kevin

You got it.

[K4D]

Not quite. Your saying you have to walk away from your wife. I'm saying that you have to walk away from your concept of a relationship. Take charge of yourself and be a strong independent man regardless of your relationship status.

That is basically what I meant.

Kevin