Hope and heartache

[awest1217]

I agree. Now is the time to work on you. I will tell you from experience, I have known each of my husbands OW. I especially know the most recent one and H talks to me about her all the time. Knowing and snooping and worrying and thinking about them all the time ate up most of my summer which is my time to relax. Don't let this happen to you. She is making a terrible mistake and you should feel hurt, upset, angry, etc., but don't get caught into the trouble of making her all you think about because all that does is bring up the negative feelings more and maybe even guilt because you aren't doing what she is. I don't think you should start dating, since you are still married, but go out. Have fun. Reconnect with friends. Move up at work. Work on you and your feelings, not to be a better husband or to help your marriage, but because you want to be happier and a better person and if nothing else it will help you be a better dad.