A couple of questions to all the WAS

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[i][b]Now that you have walked away, have the reasons for walking away been justified?

Those reasons were justified by my husband himself. When I left, he got extremely busy addressing the things I told him as I was walking away. He took seriously what I said in the year of 'the bomb' and improved his listening/communication skills in such a way that we could connect and work things out.

And what were the reasons you walked away?

No connection. My husband didn't 'see' me. I wanted more in a relationship - specifically PARTNERSHIP. We didn't have that, hadn't had it for at least a decade and I needed it. I didn't feel loved.

Did you find the same problems in your new relationship that you had when you walked away from your old one?

No, because my new relationship is with my husband who, referencing your first question, gets it.

Are you thinking of walking away from this relationship as well?

I have skills now, too, thanks to my husband, which assist me in expressing my thoughts, feelings, needs. These skills in concert with what my husband has learned give us the ability to work through, rather than walk away from our difficulties. So no, I am not thinking of walking away again.

Are you still with the person you walked away with and is this threlationship you thought you were going to have?

I didn't have another person waiting in the wings when I walked. I walked away in pain - not to be rescued.

thank you for your time!

You are welcome. I am one of many people on this board who have suffered or are suffering, yet we still give of our experience here in order to be helpful - sort of pay it forward. You would do well, Alex, to see the value in this rather than baiting and mindreading. It oozes from your posts. Folks here know the pain I suspect you feel. We're about problem solving and support. We offer that to you, too. Be nice.

Cheers ~
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