Its Halloween and a very emotional day so I'll be easy on you. I'm reading some things in you post that are a bit of a concern.
"Doing something with her HS friend is a very good thing for me." How does this effect you? Why does this effect you? I gather that you think this will make some difference in her. Lets just say it did. What would have changed in your relationship?
Don't get me wrong, hope is not a bad thing. What is bad is if your wife continues to be the center of your world. That goes for now and even in the future when you are back together. You might as well take the time now to get your house in order.
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