Well my anniversary ended up being an emotional day unexpectedly. I am not sure why I figured it wouldn't be. I went to the church we were married in and was overwhelmed by emotion for whatever reason. I thought I would enjoy giving thanks, but I felt a lot of despair about the fact that the M is ending. I guess these are emotions that need to come out at some point. I don't know for sure that it is ending since I can't predict the future, but if you just looked at our current behavior it is done.
W didn't acknowledge the day at all, which was expected.
I decided I wanted to buy a car. Our finances are separated for the most part. I found something I wanted that seemed like a really great deal. W had a fit. I at first I wasn't even going to talk to her about it and just do it, but I decided to discuss it with her. Her reaction was that I didn't need it (I actually do because we have a teenager about to start driving, but she says this every time we ever bought a car).
Her reaction was all wrapped up in arguments about how much money I would pay her if she separated, how SHE would like to buy her own house but she can't afford it, and all kinds of other stuff like that. What the heck does any of that have to do with me buying a car (an inexpensive used one)?
She made the following statement: "Our M has been terrible - most couples would discuss making a major purchase."
My answer: "We ARE discussing it! Do you think that a M couple should never disagree?"
She is kind of whacky right now. I think she is in the death throes of an argument with herself about leaving.
We shall see.
Last edited by tryingtilDorR; 11/01/0902:31 AM.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
