Hi J3B- thanks for your kind words. It helps more than you know. I can now see what you mean- and you're right, I probably should not have worded it like that- or even brought it up at all- I didn't mean to "stir the religion pot"- God forbid! I was attempting to explain (badly now, I see) how, just when you think nothing can be lonelier than having your beloved partner of many years abandon you, that many of the very few people who believe in marriage for better or for worse no ifs ands or buts don't believe in marriages for people like me, although I do respect their beliefs- I just meant it was especially disheartening- that we have even less support than other LBSs. I think most religions say the same thing: be a good person. I'm all for it. Anyway, no more stirring that pot, or a political one either! That said, what's up with the Giants? They're breakin' my heart! Then again, after the sweetest most thrilling Superbowl ever, when they Davied the undefeated Patriot "giants", there seems little point in watching football anymore anyway...
Arwen, are you still around? I was thinking- having your WAS move in with the OP is probably a good thing- nothing can sour a R that isn't meant to be faster than sharing a bathroom and living with someone else's long list of quirks and pet peeves. If you guys had a nice domestic rhythm together, there's a good chance the OP thing may self-destruct even quicker now that they are shacking up together. So leave the porch light on, with fresh flowers on the table, (or whatever your P liked about your home together). Who knows?- maybe she'll show up at your door tonight dressed as a sane person.
