Still Wondering How To Handle Things!!

[kissak]

Thanks Jack....I really hear alot of what you are saying. I did come here to try to save my marriage and during that time I think I have just saved myself. I am different now. I still love my H, but Im not really sure if he is ready yet.

SWL, there is alot of talking that still needs to be done. Trust me, he will not be moving back in. Im more along the lines of thinking working on things and NOT letting him live here as you said. Even going as far as NOT even mentioning this to our children.

I really need to try and get into his head about why all of this has come up now. Why does he want to move home? What is different?

I think he is going to be introduced to a whole new person. Because I have so many thoughts and questions to ask him...and quite frankly Im gonna be more bold on what I ask him than ever before!!!

Im sure after him talking to me he will really reconsider what he asked. Not that I would talk him out of it, but I really and gonna put it all out there for him.

Honestly, this is what I have wanted all along, for him to come home, but I have to be sure HE is ready. I know I am. I have to know his stand on the exOW. I was only speculating on him being hung up on the OW still. STill alot to talk about and that is what Im really nervous about, so pray for me that I will not crumble and fall!

But really....this will be his "last chance" IF I let him come back into my life in that way.


Thank you swl for your thoughts. I undertand completly what you are saying. I luv ya! You have helped me through some low points!!

Jack, I appreciate you giving me your thoughts to. I am always interested in what you have to say with others....glad you stopped by my thread!!!

Just pray for me friends. I know Im gonna be ok, but how I handle this is gonna make all the difference in the world to me and my kids. I have to protect me and them.