Hi Grr, I'm sorry you find yourself here too. Is so very hard, indeed. Know that you are not alone, try to read some of the other posts on here, get the DR book as SG said. It will help. Try to take care of yourself during this awful time, I know it's hard to eat or do anything when this hits. When the bomb 1st dropped on me, it was about a month before I found DB books, then this site. I didn't feel so alone in my sitch. Being able to "talk" to others going or who've been through the same thing makes a huge difference. Please take care of you & your son.