Not Me...Ever part 2

[TrentC]

Trent ~ You are correct that they are hurting as well however as an adult looking in, it still makes no sense that they choose to act out like a teenager...

In my wife's case, her family upbringing was one of "suck it up and put on a brave face"; they didn't work things out. So she is used to internalizing things and not talking about it.

Now she feels like she is alone, because she won't reach out to anyone that will actually help her and has pushed away people who have offered. She hasn't figured out how to move forward.

If she chooses to have faith that I will be there for her, maybe I can help with that. Right now, I can only wait and pray for her.

I have been open about the process I'm going through -- she knows I'm in therapy, and she's seen my copy of The Five Love Languages and His Needs Her Needs (not DB or DR though!) She says she knows we need to talk to someone together, but hasn't committed to anything. And she's still technically in recovery from her surgery until the end of this week, so I won't push it yet.