Am I at this stage?

[TrentC]

That's what I think I'll do. Treat him like an old friend. I will definitely be focusing my attention elsewhere this time.

Good.

I was thinking more about it today. And its all really bizarre to me. How he could come in my home, give me a great spiel about our future together, use the intimacy card, take me to bed, and then for then entire next week not even touch me more than a few hugs here and there? Does this seem odd to anyone? Its starting to get to me.

Wayward spouses do crazy things. There's a thread around somewhere of the stupid things WAS's say to justify leaving, or to justify an affair.

He may be trying to see if there's something still there; it's not uncommon for a spouse to pull way back after a positive encounter.

He may be cake-eating; using your feelings for him to get what he wants from you without having to give you anything in return.

Who knows?

He hugged me yesterday when picking up the boys, he complimented my new haircut. Wished me a good night and was off. Hmmm? Maybe he's having second thoughts about the R talk? Maybe he changed his mind AGAIN! I dunno.

No, you don't. Which is why GALing will be positive for you because it'll take your mind off of it.

Trent, shave it off for sure. That would be such an exhilarating change for you to make! It might be the best thing you've done in a while! do it!

It'd feel weird, but I'll give it more thought.