because posting it, makes it seem more real. the time has come to wake up and see that this IS happening. i have been with my h 16 years. we have been married for 13 of those and have a son who just turned 8. upon returning from a charity climb in africa, my h told me that he wants a divorce. this marriage is not a happy one for either of us and that he loves and respects me, is sexually attracted to me, but is not "interested in a romantic relationship with me." a bit about our background: we are from 2 different states and met while he was working in mine. during our relationship (even after our son was born) we kept a home in each. he travels most of the year and if he is with us for 2 weeks out of each month it is alot. i work very long hours, but not 12 months a year. when i am working he tries to be here, but when i am off, he is on the road. we pretty much play "pass the baby - it's your turn" it is in my home state that our son goes to school and that we spend most of our time.......because of the illness of my elderly parents we have moved into their upstairs apartment (which is still pretty much decorated 1971) and have been in this situation for 8 years. i am amazed that he is ok with it. on the other hand, he is not here very much and does not understand the tension i deal with everyday. our son comes into our room everynight, which forces one of us into his room this has been going on, pretty much forever. sorry to ramble, i think those things are key to the demise of our relationship. 3 years ago, we were at this place in our relationship, but he was willing to give it another try we never went to counseling or did anything different, were just a bit nicer to each other. now he says he has given it all he has and has lost any confidence that we can ever be happy our background; i am from a large family whose parents have been married for 60 years. his mother left when he was 3 and his father has been married 4 times i don't think he is seeing anyone else, although i guess you never know. he has agreed not to do anything until after the holidays and is concerned with upsetting my parents. when he is off the road he is in our house and i am trying to keep the conversations light. but it is really hard not to beg, plead for my son's sake (he worships his dad, he already does without him so much and the thought of my husband not here when he is off the road is sickening) i can't sleep, eat or think about anything else thank you to anyone reading this and i am sorry if you were or are in the same place. it is tragic
