I remember last year when my doc asked me if he hurt me because I reacted funnily, I actually replied 'no doc, just savouring (sp?)the feeling". Then later I told him he should look out for the spider webs. His nurse nearly died laughing. S
Well here is a scary story on October 31st. Last night D8 stayed over at her mom's in orde to trick or treat today (parade and the whole nine yards where I used to live)...so far so good. Apparently she was chatting on MSN last night (I say apparently because NGF recounted the tale). Dennis the Menace was also on with friends and apparently was being bothered by D8 and told her to "F@CK YOU",,,,well as luck would have it XW saw it and exchanged some .... well ideas on chatting etiquette. Needless to say Dennis is not making his way up my Christmas gift priority list. What bothered me a little was that NGF punished him with a few hours off the computer (so he played video games instead on his PS3). I think my punishment would have been a little harsher and I would have asked him to apologize....but I did not make a stink...nonetheless....here I am thinking about it. Now I know i will hear something from XW and I don't really care, however, I am not sure I should mention it to Dennis the next time I see him. That kid needs a serious.....oh never mind.... Happy Halloween everyone!!
My S is 13 and I would have been extremely upset if any of his friends said that to him on MSN or FB. In this case I can understand your XW's point of view. I also know that I would have a much harsher punishment if S13 were using that kind of language. In any case, it's best that you don't bring it up with Dennis unless it continues to happen.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
Tough one John. My last GF's daughter was quite the energetic terror and one of the reasons for me ending our relationship was how my kids (especially S9) felt about her. And I blame the mom for much of it because she did not have strong consequences for her daughter when she misbehaved. But I also felt sorry because the father had ditched them several years earlier.
If I had an older boy say something like that to my daughter, I would have a well thought out man to boy talk.
You have no control over her son. Your daughter is a different story.
Kids are not mature enough to handle conflict online. Years ago my daughter would IM her older brothers to the point where they blocked her. She was young and would keep IMing with silly stuff that annoyed them. Then she'd get really upset and feel it was unfair that they were being so mean.
It's your job to protect your daughter and teach her boundaries. If someone is rude or abusive, they're blocked. If she's bothering someone let her know that can provoke someone to be nasty. As an analogy, how would she feel if someone was continually poking her after she told them to stop.
If some other kid had typed profanity to your daughter, what would you consider to be a reasonable response. Perhaps your daughter would benefit from some time away from MSN until she has the skills to handle the responsibility of online chatting.
I've heard nothing regarding this subject from D8 or ex wife but I will have a talk with D8 regarding online etiquette. And I have a hunch Dennis has already been blocked ... the ex is pretty strict regarding time on the computer during the week (1/2 hr per day max). When the opportunity arises, I will also make sure that Dennis is made aware that the next time he uses profanity with my daughter for any reason....well...I'll come up with something LOLOL!
Admittedly I don't know your entire sitch, but I hope that this is a good thing for you. To be honest, there are days (like today) when I wish I was only 3 weeks away from "D" day.
