I didn't realize how strong of an unconscious positive bias I had developed for my W (love) until I lost it. Now that I am seeing things objectively I've come to (and continue to come to) a number of conclusions about my W and our MR, one of which is that I will be just fine without her should we finalize the D.
As far as enduring my W under the same roof, it has in many ways gotten easier since I detached and stopped caring what she is doing, saying and with whom, although she still manages to irritate me from time to time. I continue to work on the refi project with my Realtor, mortgage broker and L. Hopefully we will have a package put together soon so we can move forward and cash my W out of the house.
As far as a social life, I've been going out from time to time with friends for dinners and movies, sailing and spending time with my kids and my side of the family- just keeping things light for now.
Thanks for checking in on me! ((Sandi))
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
