Newbie with almost WAW - Need Advice

[Gardener]

HBH,

I set that boundary last week, just not sure what consequence I can impose if she continues A other than to ask her to leave.

But a boundary by definition includes the action you will take if your boundary is violated.e.g., "I will not share my wife with another man. If you do not cut off all contact - with transparency - you will have to leave." IOW, the "consequences (you) can impose if she continues," should have been covered in last week's discussion. I'd revisit and tell her the consequences of non-compliance of your boundary.

Then she may just say that she left because I told her to.

Yes, she may.

Saw OM at work today which almost never happens, made eye contact w/ him actually. Probably should have confronted right there but it was in a very public area so decided against it. Really got my heart pounding for sure!

A wise, brave decision. I admire the courage and restraint that took, heart pounding or not!