H's reason for leaving is that he is not happy and has not been happy for awhile. He feels that we do not communicate affectively, we have nothing in common other than the kids, and that our personalities are complete opposites. He says there is not an OW. Nor has he ever given me a reason to believe otherwise.
Keep your antennae up. It very well may be just as he says - and yours wouldn't be the first M to come unglued b/c of communication. But keep your eyes open. You need to know what you're up against.
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To my knowledge he has not spoken to attny. He has told me he will wait until at least the beginning of the year before starting the D process.
Why wait? Get that answered.
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I am currently trying the 180. I actually haven't had a lot of time to dwell on things as my support network has kept me quite busy. At the same time, I am doing a lot of things I used do before the kids. It has been a long time since I have found some quality "me" time.
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Since I have not been in contact with him, I am not sure how much of this 180 he is really aware of. That is why I am so nervous for tomorrow. I want to get this right.
Get it right for YOU. This isn't a show for him. You are put together, you are dignified, you are smiling b/c that's how YOU roll - not so he'll notice. And whether you 'get it right' tomorrow night or not won't solve it. You are on a path of self knowledge like you've never dreamed possible. There is so much learning in your future - tomorrow is just a drop in he bucket.
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Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
