Trying LRT - Please Help!

[motherof3]

H's reason for leaving is that he is not happy and has not been happy for awhile. He feels that we do not communicate affectively, we have nothing in common other than the kids, and that our personalities are complete opposites. He says there is not an OW. Nor has he ever given me a reason to believe otherwise.

To my knowledge he has not spoken to attny. He has told me he will wait until at least the beginning of the year before starting the D process.

Our marriage has had it's ups and downs, but pretty normal in my opinion. I do agree with him in that we both need to brush up on our commuincation skills. Before he moved out, it got to the point where were just going through the motions. I think that we both put our marriage on the back burner to raise our three young kids. Unfortunately, at this point I am the only one who wants to fix this and invest more into the marriage.

I am currently trying the 180. I actually haven't had a lot of time to dwell on things as my support network has kept me quite busy. At the same time, I am doing a lot of things I used do before the kids. It has been a long time since I have found some quality "me" time.

Since I have not been in contact with him, I am not sure how much of this 180 he is really aware of. That is why I am so nervous for tomorrow. I want to get this right.