The book "Love, Honor, and Forgive" has helped me so much. I am going to seriously work on forgiving H, OW and others in my life who have wronged me because I want the freedom to have a great life and not be bound to those people for hurting me. Even if they never apologize I know bitterness will kill, but forgiveness will bring life. I feel revitalized and filled with so much hope. As I said before, I read this book because H told me about it and could not find it. Tomorrow I am going to leave it and DR on the door step on the place he is living. I am going to leave a note that expresses my appreciation for telling me about the book, and my renewed commitment to our marriage.

I am going to leave the rest to God. I am still going to do what I said above because with forgiveness comes self-respect, boundaries and convictions. I am setting the boundary that no more closeness until OW is out of the picture. He will have to prove that to me, but that is up to him. I will still respect him and be kind and loving, which will be hard, but the anger should be gone with the forgiveness and I will be able to focus on doing what is right.


Me29 S3
H left 4/1/09
I file 8/2/10
Divorce final 5/17/11
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2nd http://www.tinyurl.com/2c35ueg
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