Like I said before I understand the heart ache, but I just finished the book I posted about called "Love, Honor, and Forgive" by Bill and Pam Farrel. It goes well with DR, but it is really all about forgiveness. I really like how it explains forgiveness and how it explains that some things will take longer than others, but you have to keep working at it, not for the other person, but for yourself. It has some great success stories, and just some great advice. I know you are headed down a rocky road right now, but I really recommend the book. It has given me a peace that I cannot describe, from God. I don't know why God puts us through these things, but one preacher who is a good friend, and was at my church right when H moved out preached a message on how if we are going through the worst trial in our life it stinks, but remember God allows it and always gives us a way of escape, but be thankful because he found us worthy enough to put us through the fire because He knows we will come out better on the other side.
Whether things go to D or you reconcile, which I know right now looks like an act of God, believe me I am there, especially since H does not at all want to let go of OW, but He has His hand on us and if we can forgive, we will have to tools and strength through Him to make it.
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