Trying LRT - Please Help!

[motherof3]

I don't know even where to start except from the beginning.

Several months ago my husband said the dreaded ILYBNILWY words. This bombshell took me by complete surprise. We tried MC but only made it through 2 sessions before he announced that he was "done" with our marriage and stopped wearing his wedding ring. At first I did everything that DBing says not to do. I begged, pleaded, pushed for answers and eventually all of this pushed him right out the door. Then I found DB and started reading.

Flashforward to the present time, he moved out of the house 1 month ago. We are currently splitting time with the kids 50/50. Until recently, communication has only been via email and text. Now we have been speaking very briefly over the phone. However, no communications outside the topic of our kids have taken place.

Right now I am just trying to wait this out. The only problem is my lack of patience. I find it very difficult to sit back and just let things happen. I understand that fixing my marriage isn't going to happen overnight, if even at all. It is just so hard not to have any control over the situation.

I want to ask him out to eat. I want to ask him to a movie. What I wouldn't give to just have a five minute conservation with him that doesn't involve our kids. Unfortunately, at this point in time I know that these actions/requests will end up getting me nowhere.

On the plus side I things, I did ask for his help in taking the kids trick or treating around the neighborhood tomorrow night. He has agreed to help. I am just so scared that I will say or do something to screw things up.

Any advice you have on what to do/say or what not to do/say would be greatly appreciated.