K sounds like you did as well as can be expected Ofcourse your H will not understand your insecurities when he speaks of his old HS lady friend, but we do so you are not crazy but these mlcers seem to want to blame us for anything under the sun I think you did well by thanking H for his honesty he twists it all up so it is hard to know how well you did the best chance any of us has with this kind of a situation is to Take Care Of Ourselves by exxercising, eating, sleeping, friends and support meditation relilion spirituality ect.. so make sure you can stop long enough from the ride to daily rechrage peace
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