25, I agree with your posts if I understand your definition of love as a verb. Also get the part about people hiding behind "love" so they don't have to act responsibly. Sense we are on a thread titled detachment I want to make sure that we separate the two things less they get confused. Love and attachment are not synonymous. You can still love someone and be detached from them. Detachment is really the result of setting a boundary on how you will be controlled by your S.
So many times I see people try and substitute love with anger or even hate as a means of coping (read about cognitive distortion). Problem with that is you still have made the other person the center of your emotional universe. Until you are at the center of your universe you have outsourced everything.
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