Rob I am finally back on track with you....except for the trip thing.
It is our family XMAS tradition with our kids. Would you honestly take your kids away from their mother at XMAS and at the same time remove their mother from their annual vacation?
You may, but I won't, knowing how much it means to them.
Let's just agree to disagree on this one and the money thing which is already done, and move on. Even if they are "wrong", 2 things are going to be the ultimate in final outcome.
Rob I am finally back on track with you....except for the trip thing.
It is our family XMAS tradition with our kids. Would you honestly take your kids away from their mother at XMAS and at the same time remove their mother from their annual vacation?
Who is leaving who? Is she leaving you or are you leaving her? Are you going to take her on your family holiday outings when and if you split up for good? What about when you've found someone else (or she has)?
Originally Posted By: Indy36
You may, but I won't, knowing how much it means to them.
Let's just agree to disagree on this one and the money thing which is already done, and move on. Even if they are "wrong", 2 things are going to be the ultimate in final outcome.
I'm on board.
Well, ya gotta do what you think is best for your relationship. And I'll support your right to try.
Just don't be surprised if you come back to tell us what a disaster the trip was and we say "we tried to tell you..."
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
She is leaving me. We have met several families while on vacation that go away after a divorce. I can't predict the future, but it's possible we would do the same. What happens in the next year and how my wife and I handle it will decide that.
As for when one of has found someone else, that will change things, since that relationship will be a priority. And by then my kids will likely have their own lives and own plans for holidays.
I'm not doing what I think is best for my relationship with my wife. I am doing what I think is best for everyone right now.
I have reclaimed a few traditions... Thanksgiving. Still had it minus one person. That was commented on and got back to me. Local town festivals. Still went but with another woman. Posted pictures on that evil facebook. Do not know the outcome of that with her. Does it matter ? No. But with me it was a beautiful day where I knew that I can still do the stuff I like and well I just happened to share that joy with someone else. It was a choice I thought about for a few days and then said F that. I enjoy that day. So I am still going to enjoy that day. And guess what. I did.
I sent you an email but it bounced Indy.
Look I understand the trip thing is hard. But to me it looks like you want to attend your own funeral of your marriage because you think it is over and just maybe it will turn it around. That is a huge caculated risk that your taking. My guess is that your going to start to obsess about it. Build up a ton of stress. But its your choice. I do not think it will be your final comment on the trip
Either way. Have a good night. Have a good weekend. Enjoy your kids. No R talks. Get out and exercise. Get your teeth whiter... Do what ever. But go out and do something. Even go for a nice walk.
I got a house all to myself this weekend so I am going to stay in catch my breathe and watch some horror movies. Jog 10 to 20 km and start to figure out all the stuff I missed at work when I went AWOL the last few months from myself.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
I used to love Sundays - the one day the whole family was home and we had our Sunday night family dinner together. Today, is Sunday and I am hating it. While we are existing in the house for another month, that's it - existing. It makes me so sad.
I went to church this morning, kepy myself busy with house chores and our best couple friends just stopped by. It all just made me more sad rather than feel better. It sucks that down time is no longer enjoyable. I know...I know...GAL. Easy to say, tough to get a life you don't want.
We are having birthday dinner for son and my father in law later today at restaraunt my wife manages. I know I need to go for my son's sake, but I will be acting the whole time.
Very bad day today. And to make it worse it seems like wife is in no way sad that a 21 year relationship is ending. Yes, she feels bad for kids, but is excited about leaving me. I HATE that.
