I'm with you EB. Not on the resentment but being her friend is not meeting my needs. Seems like a waste of my time.
Count me in on this, too. Friends would never do or say a fraction of what my wife has and if they did, they'd no longer be friends. No interest in being friends with her.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
I had the afternoon off of work. I was at home looking forward to spending the evening with our son and received a text from W at 3:00 that they were going to be out until after dinner. It was unplanned and she knew I was home.
I didn't respond so she called. I told her that I thought this was inconsiderate and she threw a fit about me spending so much time out of the house recently (littlle smile) so she is going to too. I pointed out that I haven't taken S without notice and haven't done anything that would effect her. She got pissed and hung up. She was still distant when they got home 3 or 3 1/2 hrs later.
I went in the other room where she was and planted one on her. She kissed back and it was hot and heavy for a few minutes. I stood up, said thanks, and left the room.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
Friends would never do or say a fraction of what my wife has and if they did, they'd no longer be friends. No interest in being friends with her.
"So I've treated you like garbage, caused you more pain and suffering than anyone else ever could, I'm pulling your family apart, disrespecting you, and like to make you cry. Wanna be my buddy?"
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
Friends would never do or say a fraction of what my wife has and if they did, they'd no longer be friends. No interest in being friends with her.
"So I've treated you like garbage, caused you more pain and suffering than anyone else ever could, I'm pulling your family apart, disrespecting you, and like to make you cry. Wanna be my buddy?"
I went in the other room where she was and planted one on her. She kissed back and it was hot and heavy for a few minutes. I stood up, said thanks, and left the room.
Why would you "reward" her temper tantrum? Sounds like keeping her in cake eating mode. Sorry for being blunt.
I think a stronger response might be more along the lines of your little smile and just walking away.
