I had no reason to be insecure and it was unreasonable.
How we act is one thing, but no one gets to tell anyone else what to feel.
Since it's an area of contention, perhaps you could find some activities that build your confidence and work the insecurities out that way.
I don't know. It doesn't sound like bringing it up to him is going to be helpful in any way.
When he makes the provocative statments about "being done" do you resond or react to them? It's hard no to, but what do you do?
As far as MLC goes, I see alot of folks hoping (as I did) that their spouse is MLC vs WAS b/c they see the former as having more of a chance. I don't know that I agree. And I think we all have to decide where we are in this, if we are willing to go to the mat and to know we have the power to change our decision at any time. We can always pick up our ball and go home.
Having said that, I know how hard you're trying to look under every rock and it feels like he isn't. You will find a way to let go of what he is or isn't doing. This is all about you. Working to have a new M with this man is all about you and your life. Yes he's included (potentially), if you choose.
