When I say it's unhealthy to go on loving someone who obviously isn't loving to you or acting lovable and this continues over time...yes I think it's unhealthy to allow yourself to feel the same type of love you felt when they were treating you well.
It's healthy to have a boundary.
Someone who does not respect themself cannot love themself, nor can they receive it from someone else in a healthy full way.
So yes, I still say that over time, if a person isn't loving or kind to you, it's NOT healthy to keep your head and heart in a place reserved for those who are. Especially if there has been betrayal after betrayal. It's self abuse to go back and I'm not into self inflicted martyrdom. It's sick to stick around for more abuse, and it's crazy to keep going to a dry well for a drink when it's empty. You can move on in your life and let go of the past and work on yourself.
Sound wisdom. Thanks. This is stuff that many of us here need to hear.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
