I'm just to frustrated and lost. WE were doing so well and now after our session he's going out iwth all his single guy friends and he's taken off his wedding ring which he put back on a few weeks ago. He even went back to sleeping on the couch last night. Am I supposed to act like none of this is registering with me? Please tell me what I'm supposed to do!! I really need some help.
1. Going out with his friends, not a big deal.
2. Going out with his friends and making sure he takes off his wedding ring is putting out the message, "hey I'm single and if I meet some women, they'll know i'm single". It's not specific to men either, women do this all the time.
3. Going back to sleeping on the couch when his wife wants him to sleep in the same bed. Give us some more details here. Did you have an affair, and if so are you acknowledging that this bothers him alot. What has created this distance between the two of you? Are you angry with him all the time? Do you have high expectations of him, you don't accept him as he is, do you pressure him alot? Does he feel like married life with you is sucking the life out of him?
Him sleeping on the couch while you are wanting him to sleep in the bed with you speaks volumes, there is alot of distance between the two of you, he feels so far away from you that sleeping next to you and being separated by a few inches actually intensifies this feeling. He feels alone or lonely for some reason and lying next to you reminds him of this. Yeah I'm reaching with this but I've read about this a few places, sounds like what's happening here.
As for your actions, are you reacting to everything he does? Are you being verbal along with everyone of your reactions? Does he feel like nothing he ever does is right or good enough?
