Puppy - You are correct that my instincts (or my lack of level headedness) got me into this mess. And I did not db properly this time. I know that now.
I don't mean to take a fatalistic approach - more of a realistic approach. I simply don't want to set myself up for disappointment down the road. And..I need to keep reminding myself that the things I do can't be done just to win her back. I need that. That's the way I am.
I'm not sure I do advocate the Love Dare. I have only read the first 2 "days". Maybe after that I will drop it if it is pursuing. I don't know at this point what is in the whole book. I am thinking that maybe I can combine two schools of thought. That's all. It appears that those of you who have read it, feel otherwise - and that's why I asked. So I will heed the advice. Maybe read some more of it anyway, but not do the dares. Maybe drop it entirely.
Your point about my passive, eager to please nature is valid. That I will have to keep in mind.
I'm just trying to make sure that over the next 2 months, I make sure I give wife something to miss - and then after she has moved out, moved to a different phase of dbing. As I asked (or tried to) should I go virtually dark after the move out? I obviously have not got this right this time around, so I will listen.
