The problem was that you should have answered:

W: "Are you going out tonight?"
M: "Yeah I am."
W: "Me too."
M: "OK, have fun."


Making an issue out of this guy is only going to make her defend him against you -- which I'm guessing is the opposite of what you want.

Given the level of hostility in that exchange, I can see why you're having problems. You need to back way off and go dark.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."