Thanks for asking these questions J3B; its a great way for me to understand which things are working and maybe why.
I was definitely more relaxed. Maybe it was because I knew I was going back out? Could just be because I was having a good time laughing with the kids. Need to focus on that more anyway because it's good for all three of us to laugh more often.
Me: 43 W: 40 S10,S7 M12, T13+
My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1952314&page=1