Is this the end of my marriage?

[sandi2]

You asked about why your W would be hurt if she truly had moved on with OM.....and I suppose you meant when you blew up at her? The biggest reason is b/c it would be hard to stand there and listen to what you said and not have some reaction. She would either be hurt, or angry....but not likely indifferent. The two of you have not been S long enough to have that sort of "conversation" and there not be some type of emotion felt. As far as a 2x4, what's done is done and you've told her how you feel and just don't do it anymore. If she is used to seeing or hearing this side of you....then it certainly does no good and digs your grave quicker.

No response. I thought I'd get something about my D. What a waste of time it is trying to keep my W involved with my D. I really don't know why I bother.

Let me tell you something about LBS and their children. I read this over and over again, how the S wants best for their kids...yada, yada. That is true for any decent person. However, a child can become the handiest "excuse" to contact the WAS than anyother you'll find. There is always something you can tell about your D, but you need to ask yourself if it is an emergency. If not, then you are using your D as an excuse to talk to your W.

Only if your W contacts asking something regarding your D should you tell her information. You do not need to use an excuse that you would think she "should" want to know or that you are doing it for your D or even that you are doing it for "their" R. It is an excuse plain and simple.

It's good that you have a day that you feel strong, but then don't be surprised and let down when you discover that the next day you feel weak. It is normal. Be careful the decisions you make on either day b/c it will be based on your emotions--and that's not good.

I agree about FB and some other means people are using these days. I see so much damage it's doing to young people. The kids use to have problems at school, but then when they went home it died down. However, now due to TM, FB and other things....it doesn't die down and the rucus keeps going until there is a shooting or something else. It's really scary to think what things are to come in the future. Anyway......you are probably right to stay off FB! You know what you can't handle and what upsets you....so you are smart in that respect. Just don't be blindsided by sticking your head completely in the sand.