This is such a great thread. having read through a majority of this, I am trying to figure out what my "image" of detachment should look like.
My sitch is that I honestly didn't show my W the love and affection that I should have due to prior resentments. It was very hard for me to be "in love" with her, but I never really wanted out of the M. Unfortunately, she had enough over 8 years and became a WAW. She has now moved out of the house, an hour away, with our 1 year old son. The area she moved to is where most of her family lives (parent, sisters, aunts, uncles etc). It is her plan to stay there.
I really feel like the odds of my M working are NIL. What would my picture of detachment look like? I hope that someone could shine some light on this for me.
are you willing to move to be close to her? That's a foundational question. If the answer is no, ask yourself what message that sends. Especially since the prior problem was you not making her feel as if she was #1 in your life. In other words, maybe she's right. If you can't move to be closer to her and your son...well, what does that say? I'm just asking. Think about it. J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
