Stu, don't apologize for "rambling". For many of us, this forum is a safe place to vent and get things off our chest. That is what this is here for. It sounds like it is time to work on your confidence. There are on-line courses you can take to build your self esteem and confidence. You can google that... A friend of mine did that after she was widowed and she found it helped her move on with her life as a strong, independent woman. The thing is... when our spouses are going through this whole "walk away" thing... their criticisms of us tend to be a moving target. They will criticize one thing and when we work on that they will just find something else. It's because it is not acutally about us (as much as they want to convince themselves it is) but about them. When you work on yourself, you take that target away, and maybe they might have to aim some arrows at themselves for a change!
