Don't send it unless you really are ready to start the dissolution because that is what will happen. And right now if she is with OM, she won't care what changes you have made. She probably won't even want to hear it.

2 options,

Remain patient and keep working on yourself and let this A with OM run its course

or (and I am always against this one)

Proceed with the dissolution.

Kevin

Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...