I do have plans for Halloween, Seren. Please tell me what you think of this: My W has s-5 this weekend, so I was resigned to the fact that I wasn't going trick-or-treatin. I also know that W was invited to a party to her best friend's place (kids included). Instead, she asked me if I wanted to go with her and s-5. Of course I said yes, this means she's not going to her party. That's why I'm still wondering what to do with our time together-even though the pretext is 'for our son'. I know we are supposed to 'don't believe what she says and half of what she does'. But, I'm trying not to get my hopes up.
Also, last night we met with a child counselor for or s-5 to help him with our separation. I got all dressed up like I was going to a party. As we were concluding, my cell phone rang at the opportune time. I acted like I needed to be someplace else and hurried out while talking on my cell (it was just a friend calling). I guess this is detaching and playing games, but I thought I'd try it and see if she says anything. Sure enough, when we had our morning chat on the phone, she brought it up. She and the councelor thought I had a hot date. I just told her I was late to a happy hour and that was it. I wanted to be a little mysterious, but I told her I was not on a date.
Like you, I didn't find halloween that fun as an adult, but when I had my son, I got really into it. I would decorate the house and invite friends and family with kids for a party and trick-or-treatin. It brought out the kid in me. But, this year, my wife was suprised that I wasn't having a party. She said I used to get up for it. But, this this time, my sadness overcame my enthusiasm.
