This morning, W mentioned she again looked through all of the areas in her room for the engagement ring. She said she was trying not to freak out over it until we turn the house upsdie down looking for it this weekend.
We???? Really?????
Don't you have better things to do than try to find a engagement ring for a woman who doesn't want to be married to you? She'll spend time and energy looking for a thing but won't spend time or energy on her marriage. PFFFHHT! It's her problem. Legally, morally or ethically do you have any way to get that ring back for yourself? Her ring = her problem. Validate her problem but let her deal with it. Let her get used to dealing with things on her own. Don't you have a tee time in the morning? Go hit three buckets of balls, go workout, go ..... do something productive for you.
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I was 100% convinced W had put the ring away b/c she saw it as a sign of my love for her and/or a symbol of our M.
Mind reading falls under the category of cognitive distortion. Don't worry I am still dealing with snakes on the brain.
Cheers
Coach, thanks. She could have said until she turned the house upside down. I could have misspoken on that word.
And I agree, it's her problem, not mine. And, I agree, I was mindreading.
But, regardless of the word she used, her conduct in telling me and voicing her concern seems to show she views it as a "we" problem.
