I should clarify: I am working on those 4 things right NOW. But meant, in the new year,in my new life they will be the only things - while between now and then I may also work on the love dare things - but tempered and only in non pursuing ways. For example the first 2 things are: don't say anything negative, and do soemthing nice. Those are simply good things to do in any relationship (even with my kids) and are not pursuing. And those kinds of things are irresistable to anyone.
