Hope - I've been keeping up with your thread and it seems that we are both making some changes. Good for us huh? It also seems like we both have setbacks now and then too though.
As I was out working on G'ma's house yesterday W called and something hit me funny. (She's back to giddy happy now.) She didn't really say or do anything significant, but she acts like all is normal...for buddies, not husband and wife. Something hit me though. That kick to the gut feeling just came back for a couple of hours.
I hate that feeling.
So, what is the core reason you are having that feeling? Is that reason a reasonable thought/position? If not, then your thought needs to change to a reasonable one, and your emotions will follow.
Thought drives emotion, not the other way around. I suspect your W's attitude triggered a thought in you that triggered your negative emotion.