Right now, you are going to see and hear crazy things from your W. She will not be the same mother she was, and although it is infuriating, if you even suggest that you think she is not doing a good job, it will more than likely bring about some sort of fallout that will not be really pleasant.
Improving your own parenting skills, be it through educating yourself a bit about your children and effective parenting skills, or just through really working to strengthen your relationship with your children, is about the only thing you can do.
Minimize the damage. Be there to listen, support, love, and hug the kids as much as possible.
Become the parent that they KNOW they can turn to. You can’t just tell them. You have to show them.
Kids are most of our weak points here. Most of us, we can take just about anything that our S’s throw at us, but when we see the pain of our children, well that is our breaking point.
However, as I was reminded earlier this week, thank you Brooklyn and Mach, you can only control your relationship with your kids. You have to walk a very fine line to ensure that your relationship with your kids does not become damaged as well through this.
Someone has to be the rock, and for now, it is your turn.
TF, those babies, love them. Smile for them. Hold them and pray with them. Be honest at their level and let them know that you are always there for them honey. They will know…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
